Submitted by: Courtney Oliver, McChord AFB
Good morning all! I woke up this morning at six and couldn’t go back to sleep, so I got up and got into God’s word. Per our pastor’s request, I am reading a Proverb a day for the month of August since we are studying it at church, and interestingly enough, I’ve been doing a study of Proverbs and wisdom over the summer at PWOC. It seems that God has a word for me about wise living. So since it’s six a.m. and I am in a writing mood, I thought I’d share some of what He’s been sharing with me in the hopes that it encourages us all.
Months ago, I read Proverbs 14:1, “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” This verse has truly haunted me over the past few months. I think of it and repeat it often to myself, thinking about what it really means for me and my household. Almost every time I think of it, I find myself stopping and asking the Lord to make me that wise woman who builds her house up. It reminds me that in my home, I have tremendous power and responsibility to set the environment for my family. But I can’t confuse power with control. Part of wisdom is giving the control to Jesus. Only by His power through me will my household have peace and be the sanctuary that my husband and my children need.
But what is a wise woman? What is a foolish woman? Proverbs talks often of the differences between being wise and being simple, a fool, or a mocker. At the beginning of Proverbs in my bible, there is a commentary that says:
The “simple” are the least harmful group: they live without thinking and are too lazy to change. But they, like the others, will end up sorry. “Fools” have more smarts but have made a conscious decision to live by their own wits, independent of God and independent of advice. “Mockers,” worst of all, are rebels against God who make their prideful position known to everyone. They mock God, but God will mock them in the end.
Yikes. As I read that this morning, I can point out times and even specific decisions in my life that looked more like one of these women than a wise one. Laziness, a conscious decision to do things my own way and pride have definitely been sins I’ve been guilty of and will surely be guilty of again. Praise Jesus for His never-ending grace and mercy! But praise Jesus again that we who are in Christ do not have to live this way. God has not only put His Spirit within us, He has also made His wisdom available to us. Our pastor gave us a working definition of wisdom that I thought was so good. Wisdom is a competent response to the complexities and realities of life. I love that!
I see this definition as totally in step with what God’s word teaches us about wisdom. That it will give us knowledge of God and understanding of Him. That it will keep us on straight paths and away from evil. That it will lead to prosperity and not ruin. It will make us good, upright and blameless. I so totally want to be that woman as opposed to the prideful, lazy and blindly headstrong one! And life is complex and very real. We need wisdom to keep us on the right path otherwise we will be living life from one crisis to the next. And don’t we all know or haven’t we all been women who do that? Who survive from one meltdown just to have another? Beth Moore says that in “all situations, in Jesus Christ, we can C.O.P.E- we Can Operate Power-packed Emotionally.” Even in a crisis, if we seek wisdom from the Lord, He will give us peace and HIS power and show us a better way to deal with the complexities and realities of life. We don’t have to be women whose homes are a mess (physically or emotionally) because we can’t deal with what is happening around us. We can set a better example for our children that what the world shows “modern” women to be. We don’t have to be emotional wrecks who freak out when bad news comes or when the kids (big or little) have bad days or bad phases and it feels like everything around us is going nuts. We don’t have to be stressed out, burned out, freaked out or crapped out. Through God’s wisdom and the supernatural power it brings to our lives, we can live with victory, freedom, peace and calm in our homes. Our homes can be safe places of sanctuary for us, our husbands and our children. Our homes can be and need to be a safe place against all that is wrong in the world. We need to make them places of comfort, where all who dwell there are free to express their thoughts, feelings and emotions safely. WE CAN MAKE OUR HOMES THIS WAY!!!
How? We ask the Lord to give us wisdom. James 1:5 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” A few things about this pop out to me:
1-Gaining wisdom requires action on our part, we have to ask for it
2-God gives this “without finding fault”- He’s not going to look at us as we ask and go, “Nope, sorry, you’ve made too many mistakes to ever be considered wise! Stinks to be you!” He does not do this to those He loves. He desires us to become like Him; any steps we take to do that, He is going to encourage and bless.
3-”And it will be given to him.” It doesn’t say “might” or “possibly” be given to him, but that IT WILL. We need to ask for wisdom in expectation of receiving it. Plain and simple. This is a promise of God’s word.
For me, I’ve gained the most wisdom simply from the word of God. It is full of life and life-giving principles. I love it and I love how God uses His word to speak so clearly to His children. When we practice being in God’s word, we find out that we make better decisions and have better attitudes. Both of these things are key in building our homes. As I face being a mom, I wonder how my time with God is going to change. I may not have the abundant time to spend alone with Him, or the presence of mind to even pray coherently. But I do want to keep a commitment to being in His word and to practice being in His presence whatever I am doing. Washing clothes, changing diapers, paying bills. I hope that we all make it a habit to do this, and ask for wisdom as we do.
I love you all dearly and I want to see us all live as women who are set apart by the Lord. I pray over each of your homes, that they will be places of peace. That the Lord will give all of us wisdom to be women who build our houses.