By Chris Young, Europe Region President

There has been a great deal of activity and change happening in our region over the last few weeks.  It’s made me realize how comfortable we get doing the same things year after year and it has also accentuated the fact that change can be complicated, especially when it affects so many people.

After many years of having our conferences at the same hotel we made a change in venue and, on the surface, that doesn’t seem like that big of a deal.   But it was.   We have long standing relationships with our last hotel and we have a detailed schedule that has only had to be tweaked slightly from year to year.  We had a well oiled machine of sorts.  We had set patterns of behavior and expectations.  We knew how to program our GPS and where we were going to.  Then it all changed!

The reality is that our new location, Edelweiss, is a secure location and we have chosen to err on the side of caution, at least for the foreseeable future.

Likewise, for many years, we had trained both the executive and appointed positions.  This year, due to space restrictions, we are only training the executive positions.   We’ve had to downsize and simplify in many ways.  Last year we trained 200 women whereas this year we have registered just over a hundred.  It’s different.

As our board has worked to adjust to this new reality, it’s been so inspiring to be a part of a team that is ready and willing to respond to these changes.  God is in charge and He is after something new this year.  Yes, things are going to look much different in 2011 but they are going to be good.  We can trust the Father and rest in His plan knowing Father knows best.

Ultimately I think trust is the main issue in all of these changes.  Do we trust God enough?  Do we believe that He does indeed see us and know what is best for us?  Can we yield to His plan with all of the unknowns?  Can we trust Him?  Proverbs 3:4-6 says, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.”

For those of you impacted in our region, we ask for your understanding, prayers and grace as we move forward.  We are trusting God and want to walk in His present path and plan for our region, not remain in yesterday’s comfort zone out of convenience.  We are thankful for His today provision (Edelweiss), protection and guidance and are so grateful for the opportunity to serve you in this season of change.

When the topic of Marriage Vows surface in conversation, you learn a lot about people and their belief systems. The standard Christian vows include, “Love, Honor and Obey.” Most people get heated over the third word, Obey. The Love part is easy or else you wouldn’t be standing there, right? But have you ever spent time on the second word, Honor?

I grew up in a household that believed criticism was the path to motivation. A lot of people buy in to this false understanding. In fact, until I met my husband, I assumed it was perfectly normal and that everyone lived this way. While many do, it’s no path to a healthy relationship.

One of the first things that really struck me when my husband and I started dating was how encouraging and uplifting his words were.  To be honest, though, it didn’t get my attention until I realized that as he talked about me a lot to ‘the guys,’ his words were always kind and flattering. He never talked ‘smack’ with the guys and he never betrayed my integrity to others. This was brand new to me…brand new!

The more I understood he was sincere, the more I strived to learn this new ‘thing’ myself. It became a surprising factor in our relationship as we began to build trust. His faithfulness to hold my name safely in his mouth, spilled over to my believing in his faithfulness to our relationship. When the words, “I love you,” finally spilled (from him first), I never questioned their sincerity. I knew my heart would be just as safe as my name had been.

Over the years, my most consistent battle has been to overcome my mouth. It gets me into trouble more than I’d care to confess. But what I’ve learned is that building people up is much more effective than tearing them down. Tearing someone down gives them little to strive for; however, building someone up gives them confidence to overcome limitations.

So, what about you? Is your husband’s name safe in your mouth? Are you protecting his integrity? Are you the most trustworthy person he knows that will faithfully hold his secrets as your own? His insecurities?

A wise friend once told me that your words serve one of two purposes: they are either contributing or contaminating. What are your words doing in your marriage?

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